I don’t understand the reasoning behind the proverbial hint, when it comes to getting it or taking one. The psychology behind it… I don’t understand that either. Isn’t it easier to be direct, and don’t people rather have others be direct with them? Perhaps it’s a feeling of superiority over another person that people need because for once they don’t want to be around someone who wants to be around them. We all do it, and my question is why. I’ll try as best I can to evaluate both perspectives of the hinter and the hintee.
The hinter is in a position of power. That must be what is so appealing, or is it the fact that the hinter is the better person by exuding niceness in every way possible. This includes not wanting to have you around, but not having the courage to tell you what is up. Someone is not being “too nice” to say anything. In fact the hinter is completely void of compassion in that respect. I’m sure this type of person is never the idiot. All sarcasm aside, I can see how this behavior propagates because it is easier to not tell someone they’re not wanted than it is to tell someone they’re not welcome. It shows a lack of respect and an inability to communicate effectively.
Now that leaves us with the hintee. Obviously something is wrong with this clown because his or her desire is meaningless and is more often than not a bother or an inconvenience. Utterly pathetic, but seemingly oblivious. The sweet irony of the sitaution prevents this character from being all-knowing. Besides, who honestly believes that someone would want to give them a hint? People always speak their minds… don’t they?
I’m not bitter about anything that happened, and I could understand how it would seem as though I am indeed upset. There’s no specific inspiration for why I’m writing this other than I’m simply tired of the way people treat each other. It’s petty and sad. In the past I know I’ve been guilty of being the hinter, but I’ve also been on receiving side. Either position is unpleasant, but tell me straight up — I’ll respect you more. I’m sure you’d want the same.